Recognize that you are out of balance
Ask yourself what is making you feel out of balance. Have you taken on too much, are you unorganized, are you simply exhausted and overwhelmed.
Are there activities that you are involved in that are not necessary?
Do your kids really need to participate in every single sport, music lesson, or extracurricular activity? Do you need to be in the PTA, involved in all the church functions, heading neighborhood activities?
Can you delegate certain jobs to a spouse or child?
If you’re anything like me, this will be really hard to do and you will worry that they won’t do it right or at all. I am a neat freak and so it took me a while to learn that if I let my kids do something on their own, they will eventually get good at it and they will feel proud of their accomplishments. I’ve also had to remind myself that as long as the end result is the same it doesn’t really matter how it gets done.
When someone asks you to do something ask yourself:
- “Do I have the time?”
- “Is it something I would enjoy doing?”
- “Is it realistic for me to do?” If you answer no to any of these questions then DON’T take it on!!
Find ways to exercise while your kids are playing at the park. Arrive at your kid’s school a few minutes early and read a book you’ve been dying to read while you wait for carpool.
Relaxation is also key to taking care of yourself emotionally and physically. If you aren’t relaxed you won’t be able to handle everyday situations and your body will let you know that you aren’t relaxed by sore muscles, aches, pains and health problems that get worse.
- Meditate-This doesn’t have to be formal, just find a quiet place in your home, close your eyes, and clear your mind.
- Breathe-There are a lot of breathing exercises out there, but when I just need to stop and focus on my breath, I just choose to say breathe in on the inhale and relax on the exhale. It’s amazing how calming deep breathing can be.
- Be Present-Slow down and enjoy the moment, instead of thinking about what you still need to do.
- Reach Out-Talk to friends, it’s important to stay connected and to develop a strong support system.
- Tune In to Your Body-Check in to see how stressed or relaxed you are. Pay attention to muscle tension, aches and pains. It’s also a good way to practice mindfulness.
- Decompress-Relax, take a bath, sit outside and enjoy the sun on your face, get a massage.
- Exercise- A good release for anxious energy or stress. It can also ease depression and elevate your mood.
- Be Grateful-Focusing on what you have cancels out the negative thoughts and worries. Maximize the positives and minimize the negatives.
"You do enough, you are enough,you have enough......RELAX"